The easiest thing to do with New Year resolutions (and you
must make New Year resolutions – I do that every year) is to copy-paste last
year’s resolutions. Ideally do it without thinking. If you are thinking, do it with
the confidence and conviction that this year you will be more successful.
Great plan.
But this year I went THINK. THINK. THUNK. And changed the way I made my resolutions.
So this year is not about resolutions.
This year is the year of the year of the T.H.I.N.K.
Here's what it stands
for. And I welcome you to follow it.
T stands for Thinking
about Thinking
NOW.
Now, in my mind, is a peril of today’s instant technology
world. You are expected to respond to Whatsapp messages now. You are expected
to respond to email s now. You are expected to answer calls now or send a
message now saying you’ll do it later. And then, later becomes now again!
Then there’s the immediacy of social media. Facebook asks
you, “What’s on your mind?” They mean what’s on your mind NOW? Twitter wants to
know, “What’s happening?” Obviously,
now. What’s happening now. Which is fine. I understand the urgency of the world
wanting to know what’s happening now. I don’t understand (or have thought much
about) my having to respond now.
So when the world wants to know what I am doing NOW, I am
going to step back and think before I respond, and think about whether I do
want to respond. It’s no longer going to be about NOW. Not about TODAY. I’ve to
get thinking about tomorrow . And day after. And the week after. And the month
after. And probably 2020.
I’m going to think more. Think harder, deeper, clearer. And
maybe the NOW when used for thinking will bring me so revelations. (I’ll let
you know, but not now.)
So here’s my advice for you. Don’t respond to those urgent
things unless they are important. Think. Think twice. Think more. And it’s fine
if you don’t respond at all. As long as you thought about it. You get the drift?
H is for Home
Home is where the heart is. It’s also where the hearth is.
Well, not so in Mumbai, but hearth as a metaphor for warmth is where you need
to get the fires roaring.
2014 has not been a great year for the home with some
unscheduled repairs. 2015 is a good year to think about home. (See? Already,
thinking!) So it’s time to warm the hearth with friends over and family
get-togethers, with games played together, meals cooked yourself (even if the family
members are victims of your experimentation!), home is where the attention should
be pointed to this year. And it’s not
just the four walls of home – it’s about all the people in there and the ones
that come and go! Home is the centre of attention this year. Try it. I’m sure I’m
going to have fun.
I is for… well, I!
Time to get selfish, guys! It’s going to be about I, me
myself. Concentrate on the mental, physical and a bit of spiritual well-being.
Every year starts with the resolution to lose weight , eat healthy, get fit. This
year is the same but different. This year the focus is shifted on I. me, myself
and whatever it takes to get me better. If it means learning new lessons,
taking new courses, getting intellectually savvier, so be it. Make this the
year to be a better you. And I do want
to end the year better in every way. A whole lot better. More whole. More you. A better you. I am determined to do
this. So move over world, a more self-oriented me is coming your way.
N means NO
I still haven’t learnt the art of saying No. (Yes I know
there are self-help books available on that subject – I haven’t read any of
them) But sometimes saying No is a good idea. Sometimes it’s not. I want to be
discretionary. Okay more discretionary. And this is the way you do it. I’ve
regretted saying No and I’ve regretted not saying NO. I want to go back to
point 1 of this year’s resolutions and think about why I am saying no and to
whom and to what effect.
Oh yes, let’s any way say No to bad habits and such. No to some
excesses and No to… well… to certain Yesses that we say without thinking.
K is for Knowledge
If this year stretches bare in front of you, it’s because it’s
a blank page. And you can choose to write what you want on it. Look at it
another way, it’s also the written page that is still unread. 2015 (like all
the years before that and after) should still focus on knowledge. On knowing.
More. More about things you know. Some things about things you don’t know about.
It’s
about knowing me, knowing you. It’s about knowing the difference between
information and wisdom. Knowing what stays, what goes. Knowing that this too
shall pass and knowing that at the end of it all you are still an ignoramus barelycircling the periphery of a vast pool of knowledge still undiscovered. So
back to books and learning and books about learning! Stagnate and perish. Learn and evolve. Knowing is all.
I think T.S.Eliot put it succinctly when he said this.
2015 is the YEAR of the T.H.I.N.K.
Hope I succeed in making it so. What about you?
4 comments:
I'm surprised you wrote didn't learn yet to say "no". You? Stop joking one of most assertive woman I know
Hi Marek!
I say YES to the most impossible demands sometimes at work. No is less stressful and easier! But I can't say NO to a challenge!
Am I assertive? Thanks for the compliment then!
Hey gorgeous.... you keep saying NO to me!!! ;)
A
Good one VB. I need to think about this one. Need to re-read it a little one more time. As men, we are so accustomed to do as we are told by the women in our lives. Which is why I liked the "14 things to make 2014 better" because it had clear instructions. Now this one puts the onus on me/I ... Need to THINK!
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